Has anyone ever mocked you for being “addicted to the gym?” What about people saying it’s bad that you are so “obsessed with lifting?” I’ve had a few lazy and moronic ex’s who have said similar things to me. They wanted me to just be a lazy, skinny-fat fuck who would sit around with them all day drinking Mountain Dew and watching shitty TV shows. To me, that’s no way to live.
I can’t imagine myself wasting my days doing the same pointless shit, never actually achieving anything. How can one go through life without goals? Who the fuck wants to be “average?” No I’m, as are many of you, in search of becoming something incredible. Nobody dreams of growing up to become average. As children we have massive dreams. We believe we can achieve anything we want to. But for some reason, many of us lose that lust for greatness before we even make an attempt at it. Most people would just rather take the easy road in life.
Well I can tell you this, I’m not living my life to be just another cog in the machine. I have always had great aspirations and truly believe I can reach any goal I set for myself. I’m not afraid to fail, but I’m most certainly afraid of not trying. Some men are of a different breed. Some of us choose to spend our friday nights pounding away in the gym. A constant breaking down of muscle and the rebuilding of it into something far greater than we could of ever imagined. Some of us do not settle for average. Some of us are addicted. We are addicted to becoming the best version of ourselves. Some of us are addicted to iron. Are you?
Here are some things you should know before you set out on the path of eternal gains.
1.You lose friends.
One of the first things that will happen to you when you really get into lifting is that you will start to lose friends. It happens gradually and it’s really nobody’s fault. In the beginning it’s just a small progression of things that drive people away. Your buddies want you to come hangout and play Xbox but you blow them off to hit the gym. Maybe you stop going out on weekends to drink with them because you have been trying to set a new PR.
You will find that the more goals you set and achieve, the less time you have for people. It may seem selfish, but it’s not. People take different paths in life and there is nothing wrong with wanting to better your situation. It may be tough in the beginning when you start to lose touch with the people you once thought would always be around. Just keep in mind though, you will eventually make new friends. Like minded individuals who will help you achieve your goals rather than deter you from them. Losing friends is a part of life, but so is growing as an individual.
2. Things that once interested you no longer do.
I grew up playing video games. The two things I spent my free time doing when I was younger were playing basketball and playing games. It was a very large part of my life. Over time though I became more interested in fitness and had less time for games. Eventually I gave them up all together. I’m not saying I wouldn’t still enjoy playing them, I just don’t have the time.
You make certain sacrifices to get where you want to be in life. I used games as an example but I could obviously try to make time for them if I really desired. The thing is though, I just have changed my priorities too much over the years. When you truly become addicted to bettering your physique, you also become addicted to improving your mind as well. You fully immerse yourself into the culture. You learn about it, study it, it becomes one of the things that defines you as a person. There is nothing wrong with losing past interest in favor of growing the passion of your fitness.
3. Relationships change.
As I mentioned earlier, I had a few ex’s who wanted me to stay on their level. They didn’t want me to improve myself. Essentially, I outgrew them. Relationships will change a lot when you become an iron addict. You will start to look for different things in a partner. My girlfriend now likes taking care of yourself. She motivates me to want to stay in shape. She lets me know when I’ve been slacking and need to kick things up a notch.
What onced worked in past relationships may no longer. Perhaps in the past you would be content with staying in and ordering pizza most nights. Now though, you would rather hit the gym and sweat instead of eating junk and sitting around. Find the person who supports your lifestyle and wants to be involved with it.
4.The way you converse with people changes.
At some point I became more excited to talk about the gym with people than other things. You work hard and pride yourself on the progress you have made in the gym. It’s only natural that something that has become such a big part of your life would eventually take over your interest in topic of conversation. Obviously you should strive to become a well rounded person with multiple interest, but your passion is your passion. That will be the thing that you are drawn to in conversation. You don’t see people making fun of guys discussing football with great passion. So why do we make fun of guys who talk about the gym with the same enthusiasm?
5.You catch yourself judging others.
When you see a family grocery shopping and the mom, dad, and small children are all morbidly obese, what is your gut reaction? For many people it may be a quick thought of “how sad” and that’s it. A lot of people who see that might not even acknowledge it at all. I can tell you this though, when you kill yourself in the gym and eat right daily, it’s hard not to see that and get mad. I always catch myself looking in people’s shopping carts and getting irritated, wondering how they can feed that slop to their kids. I catch myself constantly getting annoyed at the sheer level of laziness I see on a daily basis. People who don’t put their shopping carts away. People who ride scooters around just because they don’t feel like walking. The damn people who drive around the parking lot for ten minutes so they can park two spots closer. It all drives me nuts, but I know it shouldn’t. None of those things really affect me in any way. If they want to stay fat why should it be my place to judge just because I exercise and eat right? It’s not. It’s just kind of hard to understand that lifestyle. The same way it’s hard for those people to understand the lifestyle of us guys who are iron addicts.
The majority of us choose whether we would rather work to become great or simply stay where we are in life. I choose taking the hard road every time. Nobody ever became a legend by sitting around letting life pass them by. Get yours. And as always, get gains or die trying.